Whether in family, partnership, with colleagues, co-workers, supervisors, customers or suppliers
– just between people – conflicts arise.
We want our needs to be met and our wishes to become fullfilled. But instead of pronouncing them, we speculate about the intentions of others. We asume the demands of our opposites.
And then? – Happens the unexpected:
The “other side” behaves different to our assumptions. This makes us feel irritated, angry.
The conflict is born. And as soon as it is there, it grows. We feed it with our behaviour, our reactions.
The conflict requires more and more concentration. Our ability to communicate is becoming more and more sidelined. More and more of our attention is focussed on attack and defense.
In a vicious cycle the conflict becomes a dispute. The parties are increasingly hostile. Now everyone just wants to assert his “right”. – At any price!
If when one side wins the other must lose – such as in court.
Would not it be better if the interests of all sides came to fruition?
As a trained mediator I help the parties to the conflict to achieve just this by guiding them out of the communication-trap.
“Nothing is more constant than change”, they say, and it’s true.
Again and again we must adapt, react. Whether at home or work, new challenges wait for us all the time.
The more influences and events we are exposed to, the more we feel the pressing demands on us. But as the pressure increases we lose composure, distance and sovereignty. We lose the sense of what is right and important.
Instead, self-doubts and the feeling of being overwhelmed rise. The fear of failure is growing.
Energy is failing, but not the demands on ourselves.
This happens not only to individuals. Groups, departments, enterprises and entire organizations suffer from “paralysis”.
Associations and private groups are no exception.
Although outwardly the busyness often increases – Successes remain off. The perception of the positives is clouded.
As a systemic coach, I can help you personally, your group, department or organization to discover their own strengths again.
I will help you to find their own solutions.
Far too deep we are caught up in everyday details.
Everywhere and always ready we are to have special knowledge on hand.
We rush from one task to another. – Without a break.
There is no time
– To gain experience
– To analyze situations thoroughly
– To reflect
– To learn
But where in all this maneuvering is time to develop strategies?
The answers are often obvious.
I will help you ask the right questions – By providing you the space for a little more distance to your daily business; to look a little more outside the box.
Let us talk about it
I am at your disposal for a free information session /// t. 0175.5797164